The Gender Differences in Communication

摘要：本文主要利用觀察到的異性大學(xué)生在交流中表現(xiàn)出來(lái)的言語(yǔ)差異和非言語(yǔ)差異，從跨文化交際中性別差異的層面淺談產(chǎn)生差異的原因。希望異性在了解差異，并利用共性的基礎(chǔ)上互相諒解，到達(dá)更好的交流效果，促進(jìn)異性同學(xué)間的情感交流，促進(jìn)情侶關(guān)系的發(fā)展，將來(lái)夫妻關(guān)系的和睦，最終促進(jìn)社會(huì)關(guān)系的和諧。同時(shí)希望跨文化交際和交流能對(duì)本文化中的亞文化多一些研究，，促進(jìn)本國(guó)的發(fā)展：如讓在校大學(xué)生早日了解異性交流的差異，讓他們?cè)趯W(xué)校能健康發(fā)展，在他們步入社會(huì)后在工作和生活中能從交流差異中得到啟發(fā)和幫助。

1. Phenomenon and the descriptions of differences between two genders

According to my daily observations about college students, I mainly observed them from two situations. The first one was that there were only girls or boys in the conversations. The second one was that the conversations involved two genders.

1.1 The phenomenon and the descriptions in single-sex discussion groups

1.1.1 Differences in content of talk

In single-sex discussion groups, girls talk a lot about their private lives and some trivial things, such as gossiping people especially their qualities, boyfriends or girlfriends, stars, shopping, and fashion, dressing and so on. Boys, on the other hand, rarely talked about their personal relationships and feelings but mainly talk about current affairs on news, sports especially NBA, and movies, computer games as well as girls.

1.1.2 The differences in topic maintenance

Meantime, girls often use different responses to maintain the conversation, such as “yes.”, “I agree.”, “I also have that kind of feeling.” etc. They try to make everyone have a chance to express their feelings. They usually pose some questions related to the topic to show their interests in the topic. So their topic can last for a long time on the basis of corporation. While as for boys, they use less minimal responses and don’t consider others’ speaking chances too much; there is a person who talk all the time as others talk less, so their topics shift very quickly. They use more interjections when changing topics such as “Hey!”, “Oh”, “Listen！” etc.

1.1.3 The difference in verbal abuse

Besides, girls seldom use verbal abuse; their communication is polite, friendly and gently. Their pet phrases don’t relate to verbal abuse. They often use“Oh，dear! ”,“Oh，God! ”,“God bless me! ” and“My God! ”,“Good God! ”,etc. However, boys always speak very rudely to each other, such as “shit!”, “damned!”, and “God damn it!”, “Fuck you!” etc. In fact, those words also have been regarded as pet phrases and don’t think they are not suitable to use.

1.2 The phenomenon and the descriptions in mixed-sex discussion groups

1.2.1 The differences in interpretations

When girls and boys talk together, girls often first put forward a topic, but during their